https://naraharig.org/2016/07/16/ageing-gracefully/
AGEING GRACEFULLY
It is a universal truth, that you age with time, if you are lucky ! What I meant is some of us may not be lucky enough to see ourselves getting old. In your 30s to 50s you are behind career, money, achievement of goals, power, ability to direct – individuals, families, teams, corporations, society and even nations whatever they might be. You behave as though you were neither young, nor will age with time. Somehow you feel the clock will stop here and will achieve what you had thought of and will continue to do so.
As you reach 60s, you look back and you have lost some, gained some and over all it has evened out, and there comes the time where you have nothing to think of to do, or go after. You have had your time in Sun, made most of the opportunity, and life hits you hard and staring at you for next 20-30 years at least, where you do not control anything not even individuals in the family, kids are caught up in their routine, plenty of time to achieve their goals and aspirations, and not much time for anything else. Sounds familiar! Right ?.
What is your immediate reaction to your situation? You do not know anything else but to go after things what you are used to for the last 30 years, hence you at the age of 60 or beyond and with lot of money earned and saved will try to master mind, try to take control of things on behalf of individuals, families etc… This is your second nature and must work perfectly, however you see things do not seem to work the way it had worked when you did the same thing in your 30s. What has changed? Are you not capable now?, Are you old due to that people are not listening to you?, are the people around you more intelligent and more capable than you are ? Are the people disrespecting you by not listening to you? What is your immediate reaction – Do more of what you did, in more forceful manner so that people will take notice and will listen to you. Did it work ? No, some how it did not work ! What are you missing here? Why are you not being heard, are you invalid, are you not smartest of the lot like the people around you? You do not quite fathom what is happening around you. So you will start analysing this over and over till you find the solution, while you are lost in your analysis, the people and society around you has moved on further, and the gap looks even more starker… Are you feeling you are on downward spiral, and feeling that you will cease to come out of it.
My few takes and tips around how to get out of this downward spiral – Stop analysing, and start living whatever is left of you. Think of all the good things you did in your life(hope you have done few good things!), try to forget on all the missed achievements, remember life at around 60s or beyond looks like it is on even keel ! Kids and family have their life of their own, try to help if asked for, if not observe and enjoy every moment with them, after all you should not feel bad, as it is for this moment you worked very hard in your 30s,40s and 50s so that your near and dear ones get the best of the health, education, power, and money so that they chart their own life! and not keep listening to people not even you !. Look for your friends and relatives of your age to get connected to. This is the reason, we have heard, that friends and relations are important and it cannot be suddenly created if, you do not keep in touch with them last 30 years!, while you were running after few things in life. Exercise as much as you can to keep your physical and mental health in shape, eat lot of fruits and vegetables, force to get good sleep as less sleep will cause host of mental and physical problems, get rid from your mind all the things that you could not achieve, or people who tried to hurt you, take care of your health, after all what is good of the money and savings you have that is remaining after you have given to your near and dear ones! Learn one new thing every day, does not matter how big or small, this will help keep your mind active and live, get back to your hobby that got buried when you were running after few things like – music, reading, writing etc…travel within the city, or country or the world, based on how much money you have while you are still fit.
Remember you are not alone, every one goes through this stage of life, if your lucky enough to see your old age.People who were towering figures in the field of politics, humanity, science and Art have all succumbed. This is the reality and cannot be avoided, and what you can definitely do is manage it so that people after seeing you tell others that you are ageing gracefully!
AGEING GRACEFULLY
It is a universal truth, that you age with time, if you are lucky ! What I meant is some of us may not be lucky enough to see ourselves getting old. In your 30s to 50s you are behind career, money, achievement of goals, power, ability to direct – individuals, families, teams, corporations, society and even nations whatever they might be. You behave as though you were neither young, nor will age with time. Somehow you feel the clock will stop here and will achieve what you had thought of and will continue to do so.
As you reach 60s, you look back and you have lost some, gained some and over all it has evened out, and there comes the time where you have nothing to think of to do, or go after. You have had your time in Sun, made most of the opportunity, and life hits you hard and staring at you for next 20-30 years at least, where you do not control anything not even individuals in the family, kids are caught up in their routine, plenty of time to achieve their goals and aspirations, and not much time for anything else. Sounds familiar! Right ?.
What is your immediate reaction to your situation? You do not know anything else but to go after things what you are used to for the last 30 years, hence you at the age of 60 or beyond and with lot of money earned and saved will try to master mind, try to take control of things on behalf of individuals, families etc… This is your second nature and must work perfectly, however you see things do not seem to work the way it had worked when you did the same thing in your 30s. What has changed? Are you not capable now?, Are you old due to that people are not listening to you?, are the people around you more intelligent and more capable than you are ? Are the people disrespecting you by not listening to you? What is your immediate reaction – Do more of what you did, in more forceful manner so that people will take notice and will listen to you. Did it work ? No, some how it did not work ! What are you missing here? Why are you not being heard, are you invalid, are you not smartest of the lot like the people around you? You do not quite fathom what is happening around you. So you will start analysing this over and over till you find the solution, while you are lost in your analysis, the people and society around you has moved on further, and the gap looks even more starker… Are you feeling you are on downward spiral, and feeling that you will cease to come out of it.
My few takes and tips around how to get out of this downward spiral – Stop analysing, and start living whatever is left of you. Think of all the good things you did in your life(hope you have done few good things!), try to forget on all the missed achievements, remember life at around 60s or beyond looks like it is on even keel ! Kids and family have their life of their own, try to help if asked for, if not observe and enjoy every moment with them, after all you should not feel bad, as it is for this moment you worked very hard in your 30s,40s and 50s so that your near and dear ones get the best of the health, education, power, and money so that they chart their own life! and not keep listening to people not even you !. Look for your friends and relatives of your age to get connected to. This is the reason, we have heard, that friends and relations are important and it cannot be suddenly created if, you do not keep in touch with them last 30 years!, while you were running after few things in life. Exercise as much as you can to keep your physical and mental health in shape, eat lot of fruits and vegetables, force to get good sleep as less sleep will cause host of mental and physical problems, get rid from your mind all the things that you could not achieve, or people who tried to hurt you, take care of your health, after all what is good of the money and savings you have that is remaining after you have given to your near and dear ones! Learn one new thing every day, does not matter how big or small, this will help keep your mind active and live, get back to your hobby that got buried when you were running after few things like – music, reading, writing etc…travel within the city, or country or the world, based on how much money you have while you are still fit.
Remember you are not alone, every one goes through this stage of life, if your lucky enough to see your old age.People who were towering figures in the field of politics, humanity, science and Art have all succumbed. This is the reality and cannot be avoided, and what you can definitely do is manage it so that people after seeing you tell others that you are ageing gracefully!
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