Tuesday 28 February 2017

THE DADA-DADI, NANA-NANI SHIFT

 

THE DADA-DADI, NANA-NANI SHIFT

By Gouri Dange, Pune Mirror | Feb 28, 2017, 02.30 AM IST

 

Once these pensioners return to their homes in India, there is the whole rigmarole of starting up the house again, and picking up the threads of their lives ( REPRESENTATIONAL PICTURE)

The new tour of duty, post-retirement, is to baby-sit in foreign lands

Pensioner's Paradise did someone say? That sobriquet for Pune is now passé. Not only are many pensioners now hard at the task of baby-sitting on a daily basis, many have one more call of duty: baby-sitting right across the globe somewhere. It involves closing your house down for months at a stretch and flying to where your grown kids now live, looking after their new baby and possibly an older child, while the young parents both return to work.

Two sets of grandparents are usually involved, running a relay over baby's first year and on to the next, if the aim is not just to help the newborn and the newbie parents, but also to delay the child going into day-care till it is at least two years old. So, it goes something like this: first dada-dadigo, stay, take charge of the home, the baby; they then pass the baton to nana-nani, and return to their lives in India. The same cycle is sometimes repeated a few months later.

While many older people no doubt just wait to see this day — when they will fulfil their role as grandparents and give their grown kids solid support, there is a price that they pay. They rarely talk about it, almost never complain, because Project Baby on which they have been deputed is an all-important one. And the internal prompt as well as family and society expectations dictate that you will roll up your sleeves, tuck in your pallu, and step up to the role.

However, there are many things that all these 60-somethings sacrifice — willingly and sometimes not-so-willingly, but always dutifully and almost always with grace. Any personal pursuits, classes, sports, hobbies, health routine, pets, that they have established, have to be packed up. They gamely try to stick with some of them when they go off to their grown kids, but most of it falls by the way side. To start with, shutting down the home for months on end means planning and tapering down the many little protocols of daily life as the departure date arrives.

Many of the men — the dadas and nanas— are not particularly 'useful' in this birthing and nurturing. And yet, they have to go along. Post-retirement, some of the men have found part-time work to do, but then Project Baby comes up. Now, they have to come up with a work-around, whereby they drop the ball for some months, or find ways to continue doing it long-distance, which is not always an arrangement their employer or clientele of whatever new work they are doing, can work with. No doubt, many of them 'make themselves useful' in some way or the other once they go on baby-sitting duty, but it is mostly the women who take charge of the son's or daughter's home, cook, clean, baby-sit, shop for essentials, and 'look after' their husbands, too, while they are at it.

One such set of men recently joked that perhaps some of them could stay together in one of their homes and keep their India lives and work routines going, while the wives go on ahead to the far-away foreign country to contribute fully to Project Baby. This would not be such a bad idea. An over-practical 32-year-old who has her parents and in-laws flying in and out on this tour of duty, and many like her, says something like: "We love dad to bits, but he gets bored away from his own routine, he does nothing for the baby or the kitchen, and often his food habits are more rigid than mom's, our houses are compact, so…"

Once these hard-working pensioners on high rotation (especially if they have two kids who are having babies) return to their homes, there is the whole rigmarole of starting up the house again, and picking up the threads of their India lives, where they left off. In my yoga class, there are many such, who show up after a long absence. They take some weeks to get back into the groove, and everyone around pulls their leg about how as a result of their going off on Project Baby, they have become a little chubby, or stiff. Some of them admit that their aches and pains and any minor health issues that they bravely kept at bay while away and in their children's homes, have come back.

Some of them, both men and women, will come back with some relief — however much they enjoy that baby, it is not easy to live for long months with your grown son or daughter, largely confined to the house, play by their house rules, keep your opinions about some of their life choices to yourself and put a happy face on it all. On top of it, the absence of domestic help in most homes abroad means plenty of routine, hard, and mind-numbing chores, which many are fortunate enough back here, not to have to do.

Let us salute these portable nana-nanis and dada-dadis.

 GOURI DANGE Writes about the love-hate equation that we all have with our city

■ Two sets of grandparents are usually involved, running a relay over baby's first year and on to the next, if the aim is not just to help the newborn and the newbie parents, but also to delay the child going into day-care till it is at least two years old

■ Write to Gouri Dange at punemirror.feedback @gmail.com

 


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Exclusive Interview-Gen Bipin Rawat Speaks With Anupama Airy, Defenceaviationpost.com

 

Genral Bipin Rawat-"We have to review our strategy towards countering insurgency and follow very dynamic procedures than going with a static approach as in the past,"

February 26, 2017 By: Anupama Airy

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ONE OF THE MOST EXHAUSTIVE INTERVIEWS OF INDIAN CHIEF OF ARMY STAFF, GENERAL BIPIN RAWAT

By Anupama Airy

Gen Bipin Rawat, Chief of the Indian Army needs no introduction. A soldier's General, who has led from the front and been in the thick of things through his long and illustrious career. He has been riding over several challenges and occasional controversies with a composure worthy of any battle hardened operational soldier who believes in getting the job done.

An Army which has been continuously combating insurgency and terrorism along with fighting conventional wars with its neighbours since independence is today being led by another worthy Chief, who has been firm in his warning to those supporting terrorists and at the same time handled the backlash created by various political parties with a poise, elan & a smile, a hallmark of a true leader.

Having the onerous task of commanding an army, on the thresholds of modernisation, handling minor man management issues blown out of proportion, getting embroiled into controversy over stern warning to terrorist supporters, General Bipin Rawat, is firmly now in Chair and in control of the reins of, without a doubt, the most professional army in the world. 

A chief, leader, soldier and statesman he has shown that the faith reposed in him by the Government is justified and he shall deliver.  

In an exclusive and detailed interaction with Ms Anupama Airy, a senior journalist and the Founder&Editor of DefenceAviationPost.com, Gen Rawat spoke at length on various issues and was candid enough to take all kinds of questions.

Excerpts:

Q:  How prepared is our Army when it comes to weaponry and equipment. In terms of procurement, what is topmost on your agenda and how are we progressing with it?

Ans– See my predecessors have identified priorities. We have identified 23 priority items and with my Deputy Chief, we have started moving with that. Having taken over recently, I would not like to suddenly change things in line with my priority because something which has already move forward, I won't like it to be put on a back burner. So I am presently looking at those priorities only and within them I am trying to see how things have to move.

I know that proxy war is something that is of immediate concern to us. Therefore if within that I have to prioritise then I would like to say that those people who are involved in that proxy war should get the weapon and the equipment that they need first and then make sure that we move ahead with all those priorities that my predecessors have identified. 

Q:  Sir in 2016, as per the reports, infiltration has been three times more. What as per you is the reason for this and what are the actions we need to take to improve the situation?

Ans- Yes reports have come from MAC that infiltration has been on the higher side and I won't like to deny that. Yes there has been a slight increase in infiltration as compared to previous years. When you look at countering insurgency, this is where you have to look at following very dynamic procedures and you can't go with a static approach. I think that kind of dynamism that is required in countering insurgency has to be necessitated.

And so we have to now look at reviewing our strategy towards countering insurgency whether it is our deployment along the LC fence and the line of control, how we should act and how we should now function in the depth areas and what action needs to be taken…..all those strategies have to be looked at. I have met the Army Commanders and I have given out my guidelines for the same. I am sure they are working on it, some kind of dynamism we want to bring in countering insurgency rather than following the same procedures which have been followed over the years.

Q- Coming to the internal security situation, the situation in South Kashmir has deteriorated. What sort of action is needed to combat and arrest the situation?

Ans- I would say the first thing is to reach out to the people…..reach out to the parent's of those who have taken to insurgency and tell them that it is doing no good to the people of South Kashmir or Kashmir as such. To live in a Eutopian world and say that there is going to be azadi and in that they are going to join Pakistan which will take over Kashmir, I think such people are living in a euphoria and a fool's world.

Let it be clear to all…..The Indian Army and the Indian establishment are strong enough to control the situation. So while we will be able to bring things under control, it is going to come at some cost and that cost is being borne by the local population. In the ultimate analysis it is the young boys (Kashmiri's) who are suffering.

I had always believed and said that the next generation should not live through the sounds of gunfire and the smell of explosives. That is something I have been saying even when I was commanding 5 Sector RR or when I commanded the 19 Infantary Division.

You know ever since 1990, enough has happened to Kashmir and we don't want this anymore. So one generation has been lost and they have suffered and today they are living in this kind of world. But why should the next generation go through it. So our idea is that let us bring peace and whatever is happening in Kashmir, I would like to reach out to the people and particularly to the parents of those who have picked up arms to say that it is in their interest that they advice their sons and wards, whoever there may be to come and hand over their weapons, we will accept surrenders.

Q: But do you think that this is going to be an easy option for them?

Ans- First let us reach out to them and see. Because if it is not going to be easy and if they have to go through the same cycle as what happened last year, I think the losers will be the people of Kashmir. This is the truth, which the earlier they understand the better it is.

Q: What are those three things which would want to do and achieve during your tenure as the Chief of Army Sstaff?

Ans- The first thing that I would like to see is that our Army is seen as a people friendly army and not just one that consumes the exchequers funds, budget and the money. Indian Army is for the people, of the people and by the people and is fully committed to nation building. It should be seen as an Army that is ensuring that the sanctity of our borders is maintained and that its people back home can live in peace.

If that happens then our country's economy, which is growing, will be able to attract investments from all fronts as then investors will have faith in investing in India because they will appreciate that we have a very strong armed forces, which can look after the security situation, both from external threats and within and that there will be a safe environment for industry.

So my first priority is to make sure that we become the part of nation building and with the growing economy, world over people to have faith in us.

The next thing is to always look at the image of the Army. At no stage would I want the image of Indian Army to be dented. We have a very strong foundation on which our Army rests, we have a very good ethos and culture and I feel that we need to carry this process forward.

Some of our brothers, whether they are officers, JCOs or NCOs, who have got carried away and feel that things are going wrong in the Army. We need to bring them on the right track and tell them that whatever be their grievances, they will be addressed.

Q: Sorry to interrupt, but why this sudden dissent..?

Ans. I can assure you that this is a very small fraction of our large Army who is feeling so. I have already and repeatedly said that whatever be their grievances, they will be adequately addressed. But at the same time, if people think that they are going to continue with this to avoid some kind of disciplinary action that they may be facing because of some follies they may have committed, then those people will be taken to task.

So I am reiterating the point that we have very strong foundation and if anybody who is aggrieved, there are mechanisms in which the grievances are addressed. I would like that these mechanisms are followed and that every person, rank and file in the army has faith in the system. I wish to assure that we will look after everybody in the Army and make sure that nobody is discriminated.

I want the image of the Army to remain where it is and nobody should ever feel that things are going in a wrong way in the army.

And my third thing is that the time has come for the armed forces to look at the modernisation process. Today as our economy is developing, it is also time to look at the modernization of armed forces. There are cycles which we go through and this is one cycle that we are looking at in the next 6-10 years, where we need to start looking at  getting some modern weapons and equipments and if we don't start the process now and delay it further , it won't happen.

Q:  As COAS, what is your thought process, focus and strategy when it comes to dealing with neighbouring nations?

Ans- I feel neighbours are important and let me tell you one thing that I have prioritized my visit pattern to see that I would like to first visit our neighbours. So while my office will be planning my visits, the priority that I have given to them is 'Neighbours First'.

On what my focus will be during this visits is to tell them that we are a strong nation and that any kind of support that our neighbours need, we will always be willing to support them; re-assure them that India has no hegemonistic designs and that they can look at us with healthy attitudes and not fear India or the Indian Army.

Q: And would you say the same when it comes to Pakistan and China?

Ans  With Pakistan and China, my message is that let's look at peace. We have always wanted peace and I have said this before as well that let's work towards maintaining peace and tranquillity along our borders but if the other side does not believe in moving forward with peace, then we will act accordingly.

Q: In the recently held exercise of the Indian Navy, TROPEX-17 we saw you taking the lead in terms of integration of services. How was the experience and what is the possibility of more such integrated exercises by the Army, Navy and Air Force.

Ans- I am very clear on that. In fact I believe that the services have to work in an integrated manner. All the three chief are looking at it very positively and are of the view that we must integrate and ensure that we interact with each other more often and given an impetus to jointmanship.

Q: – Do we have something being planned in the Army in the near term.

Ans- Yes you will see that soon. I will come back to you later as I have already discussed with the Navy and Air Chief and they are in agreement. (Laughing he added in a lighter vein: "You will first see us watching movies together…Let people first be happy seeing the three chiefs walk together to a movie hall and see that socially we are together).

Q- Although you have just taken over and you have long way ahead but one thing you would like to be remembered for. What would Gen Bipin Rawat want the people to remember him for, something which would you like to do and focus upon during your tenure?

Ans– I thought I will have to answer this in my third year as the COAS and it's too early to say now what I would like to be remembered as but I would certainly like everybody to believe in me and that I am fair in my judgement. It's too early to say that but that is something I would like to be remembered for that I was be fair in my journey and I took things in a fair and pragmatic manner, without biases and without any kind of corruption.

Ends.

(This Interview With the COAS, Gen Bipin Rawat was taken during the Aero India 2017 in Bengaluru)

 

Sunday 26 February 2017

12 Fearless Women Of The Indian Armed Forces Who Inspired A Generation Of Soldiers

 

12 Fearless Women Of The Indian Armed Forces Who Inspired A Generation Of Soldiers

 

Vinay Devnath -

 

25th February 2017

 

"Service before self"

This is the motto of the Indian Armed Forces and something every woman understands deeply. Sacrifice and service before self is something that is quite innate to women in general – be it mothers or sisters or up until now, wives.

Then it is not a surprise that they have excelled in the armed forces – a profession that is largely dominated by men. Women have broken the glass ceiling way back in the 70s. And since then there's no looking back for them. They have excelled in all three services – Army, Navy and Air Force. And that is why they inspire a whole generation of women to give up a simple life and aspire for a life that is extraordinary every day.

Let's take a look at some of the first women who shattered the stereotypes and etched a name for themselves in the pantheon of bravery.

1. Punita Arora – the first woman to become a Lt. General AND Vice Admiral

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Fondly called 'General in a Sari' she was one of the officers who inspired other women to join the Indian Army. She graduated from AFMC, Pune and still remains one of the most iconic women officers the Indian Armed Forces has ever had.

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2. Captain Divya Ajith Kumar – the first woman to lead an all-woman contingent in the Republic Day parade

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And if you thought this is special, she has more feathers in her cap. She was also named the best NCC cadet in the Republic Day Parade in 2008.

She also created history by becoming the first woman in the army to receive the 'Sword of Honour'.

And that's not all, she is an accomplished Bharatnatyam dancer, a percussionist and loves to play basketball. Keep a look out for her in the newspapers because she is going places with a personality like this!

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3. Padmavathy Bandopadhyay – the first woman Air Vice Marshal of the Indian Air Forces

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She is to Air Force what General Punita Arora is to the Army. She joined the Air Force way back in 1968 when women were still thinking of getting jobs. Her list of achievements is nothing short of inspiring. She is first the woman to become a Fellow of the Aerospace Medical Society of India and is also the first woman from India to conduct an experiment on the North Pole.

She was also awarded the Vishisht Seva Medal for her services during the war of 1971.

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4. Flight Lt. Harita Kaur Deol – India's first female pilot in Indian Air Forces

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Harita Kaur became one of the first women to be inducted into the Air Force as a pilot. She flew many missions and did something no other Indian woman had done before – she flew an Air Force plane solo.

She was inducted into the IAF back in 1993 and today, she would have been one of the top officers; but she passed away tragically in an air crash near Nellore in 1995.

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5. Lieutenant Ganeve Lalji – first woman officer to become an aide-de-camp to an Army Commander

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Lieutenant Ganeve Lalji was commissioned into Military Intelligence Corps and is a third-generation Army Officer. She became the first female aide-de-camp in the Indian Army. Aide-de-camps are personal assistants to the General officers in the Indian Army. And in her case, she was assisting the then Central Army Commander Lt Gen Rajan Bakshi.

The selection procedure of an ADC is extremely tough. You have to prove your motivation and aspiration to assist the top commanders in the Indian Army.

She definitely proved her mettle.
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6. Lieutenant Colonel Sophia Qureshi – first woman officer to lead India to a multi-national military exercise

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When India participates in an international military exercise, the reputation of the Indian Army is at stake. And that is why the commanders of the Indian contingent are selected based on their sheer leadership skills. And that is what makes Col. Sophia Qureshi so special. She led a 40-member Indian Army contingent at the ASEAN Plus multinational field training exercise.

Back then it was the largest military exercise of its kind with countries like China, USA, Russia, Japan and South Korea participating.

The whopper – she was the only woman contingent commander among all the participating countries!

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7. Indian Army All Women Expedition team to Mt Everest

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Climbing Mount Everest is tough, even brutal. And in these women's cases even horrific. Because on their way to the top, they encountered four dead bodies. They were among the people who had left just one day before them.

They trained hard in Siachen and Manali for one year before taking up the heroic expedition. India cheered their achievement when they accomplished what seemed impossible.

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8. Mitali Madhumita – first woman officer to receive the Sena Medal

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Gallantry awards are extremely coveted by the Indian Armed Forces. You get one if you die fighting or do something so exceptional that would even impress the battle hardened soldier.

Mitali Madhumita saved 19 people from a terrorist attack in Afghanistan. She was posted in the Indian Embassy in Kabul when the terrorist attack happened. She valiantly saved 19 people risking her own life.

In addition to giving her a Sena Medal, she was also one of the few hundred women at the time who was offered a permanent commission in the Indian Army.

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9. Flight Officer Gunjan Saxena and Flight Lieutenant Srividya Rajan – first women pilots to fly into a combat zone during the Kargil War

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They flew armorless Cheetah helicopters into the combat zone, providing assistance to the forces fighting on the ground. One of their main roles was to evacuate casualties from the war zone.

That meant she had to fly very close to the place where actual fighting was going on. As a good pilot pair, both the women pilots ended up saving lives of many injured soldiers, even when Pakistani soldiers loved to fire at helicopters.

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10. Wing Commander Puja Thakur – first woman to lead the guard of Honor when President Obama visited India

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"I AM PROBABLY THE FIRST WOMAN TO COMMAND A JOINT SERVICES GUARD OF HONOUR, SO I AM PROUD AND HONOURED."

And like her other counterpart, she too was offered the choice of permanent commission by the Indian Air Force.

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11. Lt. Anjana Bhaduria – first woman officer to receive a gold medal in Indian Army

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She was one of the first women to be inducted into the Indian Army and she excelled as a cadet during her training. That's why she passed with a gold medal, effectively topping her batch.

When she got the news that she was selected for the Indian Army, her brother straight up refused to allow her to join. But her commitment to the country was far more intense and that is what made her excel.

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12. Priya Jhingan – first ever lady cadet to join the Indian Army

Although the Air Force and the Navy were recruiting women as officers, the Indian Army was a bit late in realizing their potential. Priya Jhingan became the first woman to join as a cadet in the Indian Army back in 1992. Back then she was so desperate to join the Indian Army that she actually wrote a letter to the Chief of Staff back then asking whether she can join.

And you know what, she did get a reply back! The reply letter remains one of her most valued possessions. She retired in 2002 after 10 years of meritorious service.

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These women proved that when it comes to serving the country, they are not far behind in excelling.

Thank you for your services, officers! You have made the country proud with your achievements.